"Men, gender equality is your issue too. Because to date, I’ve seen my father’s role as a parent being valued less by society despite my needing his presence, as a child, as much as my mother’s. I’ve seen young men suffering from mental illness, unable to ask for help, for fear it would make them less of a man. In fact, in the U.K., suicide is the biggest killer of men, between 20 to 49, eclipsing road accidents, cancer and coronary heart disease. I’ve seen men made fragile and insecure by a distorted sense of what constitutes male success. Men don’t have the benefits of equality, either.
We don’t want to talk about men being imprisoned by gender stereotypes but I can see that they are. When they are free, things will change for women as a natural consequence. If men don’t have to be aggressive, women won’t be compelled to be submissive. If men don’t need to control, women won’t have to be controlled.
It is time that we all see gender as a spectrum instead of two sets of opposing ideals. We should stop defining each other by what we are not and start defining ourselves by who we are. We can all be freer and this is what HeForShe is about. It’s about freedom. I want men to take up this mantle so their daughters, sisters and mothers can be free from prejudice but also so their sons have permission to be vulnerable and human too and, in doing so, become a more true and complete version of themselves.”
What’s the name for this awkward phase of mid-to-late youth where half the girls on my Facebook are posting Father’s Day tributes to their Dads, and the other half are posting Father’s Day tributes to their partners/ baby daddies?
There’s something luxurious about being in bed by 10pm. Everyone else is out dancing to “Blurred Lines” and desperately trying to get laid, and I’m lying in the quiet dark like, “Fuck that, I can’t think of anything worse”. Maybe I’m getting old.